rin-ring in your ears

it’s really stupid when girls think that their prom dress is the best because they’re “showing their skin off well” 

erm no 

too much skin is informal to start with

YOU’RE MISSING THE WORD “FORMAL” 

if your dress goes up past your knuckles or your entire side is showing it’s probably too casual for a prom to start with 

“oh but that’s all slut shaming because they can express themselves how they want!” 

erm no this isn’t even about that anymore, we’re going into fashion history here 

did you know!

about 100 years or more ago, the more fine fabric you seemingly had on your clothes, the richer you appeared because you could afford said fabric? 

that’s why RUFFLES EVERYWHERE and long dresses are supposed to be “classy”

that’s why a fine tuxedo with the proper number of layers and dresses longer than your knees are “proper” 

and you bet your sorry ass that nice designs such as beads and embroidering are still often just as expensive as (sometimes more than!) a lot of fabric was back then 

now of course women’s dresses back then were supposed to create the “ideal” body form, thin waist and big bosom and such, but that’s a different story that doesn’t really apply to all that many dresses you can find in Macy’s 

but even today the concept of “formal = long and elaborate” remains, especially on the red carpet 

and so for all given purposes that’s why short prom dresses will always bother me 

because this isn’t a cocktail party, guys 

it might be the best night of your life 

I wouldn’t spend $100 on a dress that you could wear on a Friday night out partying 

cybergay:

I THROW A GIANT BUCKET OF AMINO ACIDS IN YOUR FACE AND YOU BRACE YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU’RE STUPID AND PROBABLY THOUGHT IT WOULD MELT YOUR FACE OFF BUT AMINO ACIDS ARE ACTUALLY HEALTHY VITAMINS AND I HAVE DECIEVED YOU

I love sitting there waiting for a reblog 

and when it happens I grin silently to myself thinking 

“it begins”

It makes me feel like if there’s a person that I’m really close friends with, it would make everyone around us happy, it would make my friend and I happy, it would make the world a better place simply by us being in love! 

And here’s the reality, folks: That’s not reality. 

We have this image in our society that for every girl, there’s a boy. Or, if you’re gay, or whatever, you’ll find someone. Eventually! No matter what! You’re gonna get shipped, or you’re gonna have awkward moments, or you’re gonna open up to each other and start kissing! ~Romance!~

Honestly, I feel uncomfortable as hell having my social life presented like that. 

I feel like there’s barely such a thing as a friendship anymore. It’s either “acquaintances” or “on the bed having sex” or “cuddling in sweet platonic relationship.”

Where’s the in-between?

You know, those “best-buddy groups” from your childhood? Spongebob and Patrick with Sandy? The Weekenders? Zack and Cody with London and Maddie? Tea/Anzu with the guys from YuGiOh? No romance necessary. 

But as we progress into more “mature” series, romance can get heavy. And somehow, writers feel like they can “relate” to the crowd, and so you get stuff like Lizzie and Gordon, Korra and Bolin, Ned and Moze, Hermonie and Ron. 

And shippers. Don’t get me started on you guys. You guys seem to believe that there is literally no such thing as a “friend,” that they’re either a “lover” or “that other lover’s rival.” 

Guess what? Your best friend isn’t necessarily going to be your best lover. What happens when you start hanging out? Do you chill as usual, hug some more, hold hands? What about your other friends? (Again, it’s not always the case, but this is something you have to consider.)

A lot of people find it awkward, a lot don’t. But media tends not to acknowledge the people who find it awkward. Hey, two people who have known each other for the longest time? Best lovers! But in fact, there’s only a 14% that your parents grew up together, according to some surveys.

All this romantic dabbling also leaves no room for something else: professionalism. Yes, I know you’ve seen it. Two co-workers fall in love in a romance comedy. It’s cute. But no, that’s not how it’s supposed to be. You’re professionals, in a professional environment, doing professional work. Not making awkward advances. (Usually done by the guys.)

And, like in all other things, the portrayal of male-female relationships in these sorts of things is reduced to a traditional, black-and-white story, where they’re only there to fall in love and marry and mate, not have a complex friendship.

Because, you know, girls can only be really-acute-tight-close-friends with girls, and same goes for guys. 

No, fuck that. I’m not just someone else’s potential lover. I’m a person who, not really being black-and-white extrovert or introvert, has to have acquaintances, people to think with, people to communicate and work with. Frankly, I hang out with a lot of guys as well as girls. And we get along fine. I’ve made a romantic advance on one close friend, and it didn’t work out. Fine. Move on, still friends, we’re cool. It’s really not that complicated, yet fiction tends to dodge this situation like the Average Joes and Cobras jump from dodgeballs. (If you get that, you are wonderful.)  

And I don’t want to be uncomfortable being with any more friends because one of them might be a potential lover. I don’t want that pressure on my back, that I have to come out with a date and with my first, second, and third kisses accomplished.

I just want friends. 

Fiction writers, it’s not that hard. 

So if you’re writing a story and want to give yourself a new scheme? Forget love. Make friendship. Make the most amazing, complex, interesting friendship possible. You will be a diamond in the rough. 

famishings:

elicitesheep:

im going to follow you

there are so many posts in the social justice field I could ramble on and on about because they’re so STUPID 

but I’d be here all night so 

can we not say “that’s racist” after every single stereotype joke or stupid “ghetto” joke 

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dayssincelasthsfandomaccident:

(05/31/2012)

Latest Accident: (05/31/2012) A post jokingly claiming that the pairing Dave/Jade is canon due to tenuous, unrelated evidence from a recent Homestuck update, intended to mock shippers’ usual overreactions to updates, is made. Naturally, people take it seriously, and an argument erupts.

Best Previous Record: 10 Day(s)

riningear:

korra-moon:

riningear:

art styles are like sexuality and gender 

you can categorize and glorify 

but no two people are the same 

and none is better than the other 

No, this is really stupid. Art styles are not like sexuality or gender. You do not choose or simply prefer to be one sexuality, but maybe you’ll grow to like the other one if you learn to understand it better or see better examples of it. And you don’t paint yourself a gender. Whatever gender you are you are, and it’s not like “Oooh, I learned about trans women today and I’m a trans person now and I’m going to imitate trans women and learn what they do” until suddenly you’re at a… vernissage of sexualities and genders (where people can be put on display like circus freaks) “Oooh! Hardfem is even more interesting! I’m going to learn another trope and try to fit into this one now!” I agree that glorifying a gender or sexuality is wrong, but I don’t think it’s doable, except for cis/het/male, and it’s already “glorified” because of the power and privilege that people in those positions have over others. But categorizing? We do that to ourselves. We like neat little boxes and fitting into them, even if our neat little box is “flows freely between the other neat little boxes”.

As for your “no two people are the same”, well, yeah. Even one of my best friends’ who is an identical twin who’s been asked “How do you know which one you are?” (Seriously. *facepalm*) isn’t his identical twin. We’re all different people and not each other. I don’t get why this is even relevant, there’s no reason to believe that two women are the same just because they’re both women, or that two bi people are the same because they’re both bi. They have something in common, but it’s probably not enough to build a friendship off of, much less be the same.

I’m stuck at “and none is better than the other”. If this is related to art styles, than no, I disagree. It’s an opinion, sure, but my many years of failing Fine Arts in college will tell you that some art is clearly better than some other art. As for sexuality and gender, that would be out right sexism or homo/biphobic or cissexist. Which still happens of course but it’s a weird analogy to draw outright to people being blank canvases with stuff thrown upon them.

Anyway, I’m probably going to receive some tumblr hate for this, so, to any of you who do feel like your sexuality or gender is an art style, I’m curious: What kind of art style is it? And isn’t that kind of the categorizing that these weird four lines of livejournalesque pseudo-depth speaks against, anyway?

You actually sort of proved my point and gave me points to expand upon. Thanks. 

Here’s the thing - art is not drawing, painting, or sculpting alone. It is music, dance, rolling around in a morphsuit covered in paint, design, prose, poetry… it is just expression. And the thing is that certain people can express themselves better one way than another.

What you think I’m saying is, “Oh, I want to paint cubism/be pansexual today!” No, that’s not what I meant at all. What I really mean is that everyone has a different way of expressing themselves, like they have different sexuality, gender, romantic attributes - whether through painting, dancing or whatever. Often, they learn more about themselves when they learn more about another way of expression, or another term of identity, and that’s what helps the self-discovery. Where they lie on the “stylistic”/identity plane is completely different for each person. 

Now, as you yourself stated, some of both of these categories are more “accepted” or known in society than others, when all are technically valid. You’d have to be an ignorant asshole to simply dismiss one as “invalid” or “a lesser form,” because sexuality is sexuality, style is style, gender is gender, and that’s that. And as for one being “greater” than another? Anime can be absolutely gorgeous, while traditional isn’t always top-tier. And a person can be great in one style but terrible in another.

Personally, I’m terrible with the Western cartoon style, as certain “drawfriends” online can attest to; even anime, where I started, is something that requires more effort than I hoped. On the other hand, I had an offer to hang my traditional paintings hung up in a small, local gallery in the coming month. I refuse to do any kind of personal work unless it means something deeper to me than what you see; simply painting something for the hell of it is hard. No matter what medium I work on and in what “visual style,” I stress the eyes more than anything. I’m really not great with the “lineart-celshading” thing, but I can sketch like you wouldn’t believe. I can write poetry and prose, but I don’t have the “musician’s ear” like my dad does, though design is where he falters and I thrive. 

If you want identity and sexuality, I’m bisexual; I’ve had a general romantic lean towards men because I enjoy their company, but I’ve been attracted to women before. I have masculine tendencies (likely because doctors found a surplus of testosterone in my body), but I don’t feel like I could be a male - I enjoy my femininity and female body more.  

And that’s how I am, because through exploration, I’ve been able to find myself and how I can express myself. And everyone has a different experience in exploration, no matter what they think they amount to, in both art and identity. 

That’s why art style and identity can be so easily compared, in my opinion. 

I feel like bringing this up again for some unknown reason. 

blazestuck:

dragonsroar:

hetero

yuri

yaoi

nonshippers

long ago the four nations lived together in harmony

then, everything changed when the yaoi nation attacked

Only the One True Shipper, master of all four shippings, could stop them, but when the world needed him most, he vanished.

homoerotics:

the-girl-detective-fails:

I mean, I get why it happens.

Logistically because each of the Avengers will go off and have their own solo movies again they all need to be separated before they can be brought back together, so it makes sense to split the band up.

But Thor and Loki fly off to Asgard together.

Clint and Natasha wander off to undoubtedly fuck somebody’s shit up on S.H.I.E.L.D.’s behalf, together.

Tony, and his new science bro Bruce get in a convertible and drive off, together.

And like I said, I get it. It makes sense.

Uh, beer-fueled ramblings ahoy.

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artist-confessions:

Lemme explain, and before people come at me with various… ahem, colorful responses, read the following paragraph first.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a style when it comes to drawing. But, it doesn’t hurt to learn the basics (anatomy, posing, etc.) so that your style can look great.

HOWEVER, the whole “it’s my style” thing got ruined by 13-year-olds (and quite a few not-so-13-year-olds) falling back on that to excuse every little thing wrong about their drawings.

Because of that, it now seems that having a style is bad, and that anatomy in all drawings have to be 100%, or the artist is automatically considered to be butthurt to every little thing that could possibly be considered as critique.

I have a style. Yeah, “it’s my style”, I know. BUT, I do want to improve on it, when it comes to anatomy, posing, and other things. It used to be that I wouldn’t take critique… but that was a LONG time ago.

That’s my take on “it’s my style”. Now to wait for people coming after me, as it’s to be expected here.

-mdetector5

PREACH

no really I mean it’s cute and all that they’re picking “amateurs” 

but when you think of Vocaloid you think 

wow anyone can do this 

and then poking around you probably get into this train of thought like 

hey there’s some really good people out there, I should watch them more 

admittedly there were some great cover photos that weren’t picked that were significantly better than mine 

but when you highlight more “amateurs” than people with skill 

which they did 

isn’t that kind of going back on the whole concept of the Vocaloid community 

which values more skilled artists that are brought to fame? 

if you’re a stranger looking into Hatsune Miku more 

wouldn’t you rather see that people with a lot more potential are supporting this whole concept? 

you could be thinking differently than me but this is just how I see it 

I mean holy crap Crypton with your USA content in general

pick either “cute” or “changing the world” 

it took me five hours to do a digital painting for the latter 

and you go with all cute shit 

have fun fucking up your advertising campaigns because you 

CAN’T CHOOSE A STRATEGY 

fagtree:

there are people who write books from the perspective of horses

remember that

>looks at final miku cover photo winner 

>looks at mine 

>sobs